This is mothering because you're complimenting him not appreciating something he did for you.
You want to get him into the habit of getting you're appreciation by doing things for you. Compliments vs appreciation is a big deal.
Complimenting his looks for example won't get you far.
Compliments are not as affective because he didn't do anything for you and men fall in love when they do things for you; when they give, protect and cherish you.