Being yourself is a completely different energy. You might call it your feminine energy because you feel good to do good instead of doing good to feel good. Read A Life Of Love. You can tell the difference by your speed. If you're in a hurry to get a man when you meet him chances are your masculine energy has taken over.
It's the same as when you meet a man who acts like a circus performer when he meets you. He's very entertaining there's just no substance behind him. That's because he's selling you with his feminine energy. The challenge is when a man is selling you something he's usually not in the position to buy.
Selling yourself to a man will indicate to him you're not available for a relationship and he will treat you as a hook up because you sold him on the idea of you. To have a relationship it has to be his idea. This happens when you're being yourself. Watch Chemistry To Commitment.
Being yourself attracts real men to you and they will go out of their way to win you over. It's about knowing you're the prize and acting like it. This means we're moving away from seeking admiration. Admiration is for what you do, love is for being who you are. It's the difference between selling yourself and being yourself. Read A Life Of Love.
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