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By James Hanrahan

3 Ways How Men Bond With Women For the Long Run

Here are the ingredients of a man in it for the long-run.

When you meet a guy who’s attracted to you, it’s great. But, as you know from experience this is not enough.

After you’ve seen a few guys come and go it becomes important to know how men bond with women.

With that in mind, here are 3 ways a guy will bond with you if you have them in this order.

1. He starts out slow.

A guy who can be in a relationship for the long run starts out slow. I call it starting at level 5. He takes his time getting to know you because he knows it takes more than just chemistry to be in a relationship.

Guys who start at level 10 are all about chemistry. They start out strong and want to be with you all the time. The challenge is they can’t keep up the pace and quickly lose interest because they’re not building anything with you.

A guy who starts at level 5 has room to grow and bond with you. It takes time and shared experiences to bond with a guy. A guy who can be with you for the long run starts out slow. He wants to know you.

2. He builds momentum.

Men bond as they build momentum with you. It shows as he starts to see you more and make you a part of his life.

It’s not enough that he starts slow there has to be a feeling that he is building momentum with you.

If you find yourself getting into a pattern of just seeing him once a week for a date over a long period of time, then he doesn’t have momentum with you.

A guy with momentum starts making plans ahead and ask you how you feel about them. He’s not just living week to week with you.

A good question to ask yourself is “do you feel you have momentum with him?”

3. He has an eye for the finish line.

The final piece of the puzzle is men bond when they commit to you.

This happens when he asks you to stop dating other people and be exclusive with him.

When he starts talking about and making long-range plans with you.

When he’s introducing you to family and friends and you’re becoming a part of his life. And finally of course when he asks you to marry him.

You will notice that he wants to take more and more responsibility for you. This means he includes you in his decisions in life and asks you how you feel about them. In other words, he wants to build a life with you.

Men bond when they start out slow and get to know you as a human being. Time and shared experiences are the way a man opens his heart.

Momentum is key for a man. A man who’s building with you is bonding with you.

A man who can see the finish line and shares his vision with you is a man you can be with for the long run.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship

When you first meet a guy you like, you have questions. You want to know if he’s serious about having a relationship? Does he want to have children? What his long-term plans are?

While these are important questions they are not the first questions on the man’s mind.

Before he’s ready to answer your questions. There are three questions he’s asking himself; you’re not even aware of.

Here are the three things a guy is looking for in a relationship.

1. Banter. For a man, a relationship begins with the ability to talk in a playful, non-logical way.

It’s often a running joke that gets you started speaking to each other in the first place.

Banter is a creative way to discover you. Men love a mysterious woman who slowly unfolds. He wants to court you.

2. Fun. Simply put, it has to be fun to be with you. You may think this is overly simplistic when looking for a relationship.

For man to take on the responsibility of marriage and children. He has to know it’s fun to be with you along the way.

Men are practical romantics. Banter and fun lead them into a serious relationship, with this last final thing.

3. A better man. Men marry virtue. They marry a woman who makes them a better man.

This happens when you allow a man to court you and win you over.

When he finds himself doing things he wouldn’t ordinarily do for the sake of the team. You have awakened his desire to be a better man.

Men fall in love when they give. Courtship is when a man discovers he’s in love with you.

A guy is looking for a playful, non-logical banter that creates a new world for the two of you.

When you’re having fun, you can get you through anything. Laughter is a good sign it’s fun to be with you.

When a man finds himself inspired to be a better man, because you let him court you. All your relationship questions will be answered with a resounding… “yes, I do.”

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

3 Clues Of Marriage Minded Men You Can’t Miss

Sometimes it can seem like finding a marriage minded man is impossible.

Finding a guy who can string together a second date is hard enough.

However success leaves clues. I want to share with you three clues to a man who’s ready for commitment.

1. He’s smitten. He can’t just like you he has to be downright smitten. Men who are smitten will go to extraordinary lengths to be with you.

You may be surprised at how enthusiastic he is. You might even think he’s over the top. However make no mistake, he has to be crazy about you.

1. He’s about 10 years older. I know, but hear me out. This isn’t a hard and fast rule however I’ve seen it work; time and time again. Men your own age tend to be competitive with you.

They’re also often looking for someone to play with, not someone to build with.

Older men tend to be more focused on what they can give to you. They value you as a woman. They want to build with you, because they know it makes life better.

3. He has a plan. A man with a plan is able to create a future. He knows he wants you and he does what it takes to make it happen.

He will tell you what he thinks, and asks you how you feel about it.

Please note: A man has to have a plan for himself before he can have a plan for you. Once he does, he’s ready to share life with you.

The three clues are: he has to be smitten. This is nonnegotiable. The more smitten the better.

Ten years older is a good rule of thumb, however it’s not a hard and fast rule. Try it, you might like it.

He has to have a plan for himself that includes you. A man with a plan is a man you can build with.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

How To Recognize A MAN Who’s A Keeper

If you’ve ever wondered what makes a man a keeper they’re easy to recognize.

There’s a distinct difference from a man who is going somewhere and a man who isn’t.

I want to take the mystery out of it for you, with these three ways to tell when he’s a keeper.

1. He’s got momentum. For a man to make it in the long run he has to have momentum. If he stalls out anywhere along the way you’re about to go nowhere.

This means from the moment he meet you his plans intensify. He wants to see you more, he wants to introduce you to his friends and family, he makes long-range plans with you.

Momentum is super important for a man and it can literally by itself tell you, if he has it, he’s a keeper.

2. He wants to do things for you. When a man is in love with you he wants to give you things and do things for you. You don’t have to ask because he’s way ahead of you.

He’s literally looking for things to do for you. He checks your car to see if you have enough gas. He takes heavy things out of your hands and carries them. He keeps an eye on you to make sure you’re comfortable.

3. He makes and keeps agreements. This is what separates the men from the boys. Real men have no problem making commitments to you and keeping them.

A relationship is a series of kept agreements. You can consider a man a keeper when he does what he says he’s going to do consistently.

A man who can have a long-term relationship with you has momentum.

He wants to do things for you. He makes and keeps agreements and he looks forward to making them with you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re an smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.

3 Ways How Men Bond With Women For the Long Run
What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship
3 Clues Of Marriage Minded Men You Can’t Miss
How To Recognize A MAN Who’s A Keeper