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By James Hanrahan

The REAL Reason Why Men Suddenly Disappear On You Solution

When you first met him, he could do no wrong. Now he’s your boyfriend or at the very least, soon to be.

Unfortunately along with this title comes the real reason why a guy suddenly disappears.

It’s subtle, and you’re probably not even aware you’re doing it, because you just want him to do better.

This is understandable, however it’s all in how you do it. Let’s look at why he disappears, and the solution on how to change it.

!. Obligation.

To put it simply, obligation is not attractive.

When a man feels obligated to spend time you, have sex with you, or give you affection because he’s your boyfriend and should be doing those things, he’s on the way to disappearing.

Is there anything wrong with wanting those things? Of course not. it’s just that obligation is not the way to get them.

Here’s a better way to get them. It’s the very way you got them in the first place.

2. Attraction.

When a man feels the weight of obligation he suddenly wants space. The moment he has space he remembers he’s attracted to you.

For a man attraction happens because it’s fun to be with you, just like when you met him.

The ironic things is once he’s attracted to you, he’ll do anything for you. Just like in the beginning. Why? Because it’s his idea.

3. The tipping point.

Before a man disappears, he will ask himself. “Am I obligated to be in this relationship or am I attracted to her?”

Attraction happens naturally when you remove obligation from the equation. He will suddenly remember why he likes you, and want to do things with you.

If you have chemistry and connection, you already have something magical. The tipping point works in your favor when you allow attraction to guide your relationship. Attraction is the solution at your finger tips, just like when you first met.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

3 How To Meet Men Offline EASILY Secrets

Maybe you’re tired of swiping and being swept. First, it keeps going nowhere. Second, the guys you meet just can’t seem to get it together.

Before you give up hope, let’s take a moment and go old-school. I want to share with you three ways you want to know, how to meet men offline easily.

1. Going old-school. When I say old school I mean it. Classes, workshops, events, places where you’re learning something.

The best way to meet a guy is in neutral territory. Classes allow you to get to know a guy without the pressure of dating him.

2. Introductions. When someone introduces you it gives you instant credibility.

The best is, to get a guy to introduce you to another guy. As men we understand if a guy introduces us to a woman; she’s available.

3. Ask a guy for help. This works really well and it doesn’t even matter what you say.

It’s as simple as “do you know how to” or “do you know where is” fill in the blank.

Don’t underestimate how effective this is. As a man I can tell you it works all the time.

When you nonchalantly open a conversation a man will step into it.

What makes these three ways so effective is they aren’t try-hard. You’re simply going about your life and meeting men.

I call it “strategic spontaneity.” Men love to meet a woman they didn’t even see coming. It makes him think meeting you was his idea. When this happens he’ll take over from there.

Remember to go old-school and learn something new.

Have a guy introduce you to another guy gives you instant credibility without being try-hard.

Nonchalantly asking a man for help, will have men walking straight into conversations with you.

A conversation is all you need; because a conversation is the beginning of a date.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

The REAL Truth About Why You Get Mixed Messages From Men

Men who don’t know what they want constantly send out mixed messages.

They like you, but not enough to really be with you. In other words they’re wasting your time.

The most common and most crazy making example is when a man agrees to do something and then doesn’t do it. It’s called being passive aggressive.

It isn’t uncommon for all of us to at one time or another to not be clear about what we want.

However it’s rarely a good sign when you’re with a man, it usually means a train wreck is about to come.

When you get in to a position of trying to figure out the mixed message of a man you’re in danger of hurting yourself. 

Usually figuring men out means you have a narcissist on your hands.These men are interesting because they know what they want they just don’t care what you want.

Some of the best decisions you’ll ever make in relationships are the one you walk away from.

These are hard decisions because your heart is pulling on you. However,the body doesn’t lie. 

Mixed messages are clear signals coming from your body that you’re overlooking things that don’t feel good.

Real relationships with real men are not mysteries or dramas. They’re between two people who can make and keep agreements.

The best way to clear up mixed messages is to ask. Ask the questions you think you shouldn’t ask and the ones close to your heart.

Intimacy builds from the tough moments not the easy ones. Remember that men who can make and keep agreements and are willing to negotiate with you will last. Those who don’t won’t.

Before you waste anymore time on men with mixed messages. Start by asking for what you want and saying no to what you don’t want.

A man who loves you will want to know.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

3 REAL Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Guy

He’s got wrong guy written all over him.

You met him and you know he’s wrong. You haven’t felt this bad in years. Yet for some strange reason you’re still attracted to him. These are all symptoms that you’re with the wrong guy.

Before you go and hire a therapist. Lets look into three reasons why you’re dating the wrong guy and what to do about it.

1. There are no accidents. We always date the right wrong person until we get the lesson. It’s not that you’re dating the wrong guy, it’s that you haven’t gotten the lesson yet.

The funny thing about dating the wrong people is there always trying to teach us the same thing. Love yourself. These lessons in self-love are painful but when you get it, it’s worth it.

2. You needed the lesson. As much as I joke about going to a therapist. Therapy is always in session. It’s called re-creating your childhood. Our childhood wounds definitely come to the surface when we date.

The wrong guy is often strikingly like your dad. What a coincidence. Good news is he’s bringing you the lesson and you have a chance to choose differently. You know you’ve learned a lesson when you’re no longer want to repeat the lesson.

3. We always trade up. Yes there is a silver lining. When we let go of a bad relationship we make room for a good one. The good news is you’re aware you’re dating the wrong guy. Awareness wakes us up and allows us to make new choices.

Your next relationship will start on higher ground. When you’re dating the wrong guy it’s hard to see how things could get better. But when you take personal responsibility and you remember there are no accidents, change is on the way.

There’s nothing wrong with the wrong guy. He’s just not the right guy for you. Thank him for the lesson and move on. Some of the best relationship decisions you’ll ever make are the ones you let go of.

If you’re still struggling to figure out if you’re dating the wrong guy or not. Ask yourself one simple question.

When I’m with this guy do I feel good or do I not feel good? If the answer is you don’t feel good you have your answer.

The hard part is to walk away even when it hurts. Sometimes that’s what self love is all about. Theories are nice, but our actions are how we heal from dating the wrong guy.

If you’re an Alpha woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.

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