When you first meet a guy you like, you have questions. You want to know if he’s serious about having a relationship? Does he want to have children? What his long-term plans are?
While these are important questions they are not the first questions on the man’s mind.
Before he’s ready to answer your questions. There are three questions he’s asking himself; you’re not even aware of.
Here are the three things a guy is looking for in a relationship.
1. Banter. For a man, a relationship begins with the ability to talk in a playful, non-logical way.
It’s often a running joke that gets you started speaking to each other in the first place.
Banter is a creative way to discover you. Men love a mysterious woman who slowly unfolds. He wants to court you.
2. Fun. Simply put, it has to be fun to be with you. You may think this is overly simplistic when looking for a relationship.
For man to take on the responsibility of marriage and children. He has to know it’s fun to be with you along the way.
Men are practical romantics. Banter and fun lead them into a serious relationship, with this last final thing.
3. A better man. Men marry virtue. They marry a woman who makes them a better man.
This happens when you allow a man to court you and win you over.
When he finds himself doing things he wouldn’t ordinarily do for the sake of the team. You have awakened his desire to be a better man.
Men fall in love when they give. Courtship is when a man discovers he’s in love with you.
A guy is looking for a playful, non-logical banter that creates a new world for the two of you.
When you’re having fun, you can get you through anything. Laughter is a good sign it’s fun to be with you.
When a man finds himself inspired to be a better man, because you let him court you. All your relationship questions will be answered with a resounding… “yes, I do.”
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.