When you meet a guy, either you have chemistry or you don’t.
No matter how good a guy is on paper, if your body doesn’t like him, you’ve got no chance.
However, attraction is something you can build. There are three keys to creating attraction you want to know, if you want a relationship that lasts.
1. Anticipation. Building attraction requires anticipation. This means if you want to have a long-term relationship you need to start thinking long-term.
The way to do this is to remember that anticipation outranks consummation.
In other words, the longer you wait before you have sex, the more attraction you’ll build.
Sex doesn’t build attraction, anticipation does.
2. Have a fight. I’m not saying go out of your way to have a fight. I’m saying you don’t really know someone until you do.
Attraction is increased when you’re able to stay with people, even on the days when you don’t like them.
Having a fight is not what builds attraction. It’s the ability to get through it, that makes your attraction stronger.
3. Make a commitment. When you’re sitting on the fence, not much happens in any aspect of your life. When you commit to another human being you awaken attraction you might not even know you had.
Attraction is built when you can count on someone to do what they say they’re going to do.
A relationship is a conversation that doesn’t end, and a series of kept agreements. This is the practical definition of lasting love.
If you want to build attraction that lasts you’ll need anticipation. Fighting is not the end of a relationship, it’s a sign you’re beginning to care.
A commitment takes your chemistry to another level. A level where you can build your attraction into a love that lasts forever.
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