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By James Hanrahan

What Men Really Want In A Relationship (But Don’t Know How To Ask For)

If you’ve ever wondered what men really want in a relationship you’re not alone. Is it sex? Is it love? Is it friendship? Even guys themselves can’t really tell you.

However, there is one thing that men crave. It’s something they can’t do without even though they’re not aware of it.

Sure sex is fun and falling in love is exciting. Everyone knows that friendship is an important part of a relationship, but if you really want to know what men want, you have to understand how they think.

With that in mind, here’s what men really want.

1. Respect.

Men want respect. Men intuitively know that you can only fall in love with a man you respect.

What does respect look like for a man? It means you’re willing to follow his lead and direction.

It’s a simple as, being willing to go where he wants to take you. Being available when he asks you out.

These simple acts signal a man it’s possible to have a relationship with you.

They also give you the opportunity to explore who he is and what he has to offer you.

Men go with women who they believe respect them and who they think they can give a better life.

2. Real men come on strong.

A man who knows what he wants goes after it. This might take some getting used to on your part.

Follow him unless he asks you to do something you don’t feel comfortable with; in which case use your veto right to say “no.”

Men often get ahead of themselves including asking for sex they’re not ready to have. However, it’s not your job to squash their enthusiasm, it’s to let them know what your boundaries are.

3. Dance with him.

Men really want you to move with them. They want to know that you respect who they are and how they are in the world.

When you respect a man he will do anything for you. Men marry women who respect them.

You want a man who comes on strong, knows what he wants and is willing to lead.

You dance with him and let him lead to find out how he handles reality.

A good man always takes your feelings into account. He asks you how you feel about what he thinks and wants.

What do men really want? Respect. How do you give it to him? By being available to explore his leadership to see if he’s the right guy for you.

Will he come on strong? I hope so. I hope he tells you what he wants and asks you how you feel about it.

Dance with him. Find out how he handles reality. If you find out over time that you respect him. He may very well be the right man for you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship

When you first meet a guy you like, you have questions. You want to know if he’s serious about having a relationship? Does he want to have children? What his long-term plans are?

While these are important questions they are not the first questions on the man’s mind.

Before he’s ready to answer your questions. There are three questions he’s asking himself; you’re not even aware of.

Here are the three things a guy is looking for in a relationship.

1. Banter. For a man, a relationship begins with the ability to talk in a playful, non-logical way.

It’s often a running joke that gets you started speaking to each other in the first place.

Banter is a creative way to discover you. Men love a mysterious woman who slowly unfolds. He wants to court you.

2. Fun. Simply put, it has to be fun to be with you. You may think this is overly simplistic when looking for a relationship.

For man to take on the responsibility of marriage and children. He has to know it’s fun to be with you along the way.

Men are practical romantics. Banter and fun lead them into a serious relationship, with this last final thing.

3. A better man. Men marry virtue. They marry a woman who makes them a better man.

This happens when you allow a man to court you and win you over.

When he finds himself doing things he wouldn’t ordinarily do for the sake of the team. You have awakened his desire to be a better man.

Men fall in love when they give. Courtship is when a man discovers he’s in love with you.

A guy is looking for a playful, non-logical banter that creates a new world for the two of you.

When you’re having fun, you can get you through anything. Laughter is a good sign it’s fun to be with you.

When a man finds himself inspired to be a better man, because you let him court you. All your relationship questions will be answered with a resounding… “yes, I do.”

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.

What Men Really Want In A Relationship (But Don’t Know How To Ask For)
What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship