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By James Hanrahan

What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship

When you first meet a guy you like, you have questions. You want to know if he’s serious about having a relationship? Does he want to have children? What his long-term plans are?

While these are important questions they are not the first questions on the man’s mind.

Before he’s ready to answer your questions. There are three questions he’s asking himself; you’re not even aware of.

Here are the three things a guy is looking for in a relationship.

1. Banter. For a man, a relationship begins with the ability to talk in a playful, non-logical way.

It’s often a running joke that gets you started speaking to each other in the first place.

Banter is a creative way to discover you. Men love a mysterious woman who slowly unfolds. He wants to court you.

2. Fun. Simply put, it has to be fun to be with you. You may think this is overly simplistic when looking for a relationship.

For man to take on the responsibility of marriage and children. He has to know it’s fun to be with you along the way.

Men are practical romantics. Banter and fun lead them into a serious relationship, with this last final thing.

3. A better man. Men marry virtue. They marry a woman who makes them a better man.

This happens when you allow a man to court you and win you over.

When he finds himself doing things he wouldn’t ordinarily do for the sake of the team. You have awakened his desire to be a better man.

Men fall in love when they give. Courtship is when a man discovers he’s in love with you.

A guy is looking for a playful, non-logical banter that creates a new world for the two of you.

When you’re having fun, you can get you through anything. Laughter is a good sign it’s fun to be with you.

When a man finds himself inspired to be a better man, because you let him court you. All your relationship questions will be answered with a resounding… “yes, I do.”

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

3 How To Meet Men Offline EASILY Secrets

Maybe you’re tired of swiping and being swept. First, it keeps going nowhere. Second, the guys you meet just can’t seem to get it together.

Before you give up hope, let’s take a moment and go old-school. I want to share with you three ways you want to know, how to meet men offline easily.

1. Going old-school. When I say old school I mean it. Classes, workshops, events, places where you’re learning something.

The best way to meet a guy is in neutral territory. Classes allow you to get to know a guy without the pressure of dating him.

2. Introductions. When someone introduces you it gives you instant credibility.

The best is, to get a guy to introduce you to another guy. As men we understand if a guy introduces us to a woman; she’s available.

3. Ask a guy for help. This works really well and it doesn’t even matter what you say.

It’s as simple as “do you know how to” or “do you know where is” fill in the blank.

Don’t underestimate how effective this is. As a man I can tell you it works all the time.

When you nonchalantly open a conversation a man will step into it.

What makes these three ways so effective is they aren’t try-hard. You’re simply going about your life and meeting men.

I call it “strategic spontaneity.” Men love to meet a woman they didn’t even see coming. It makes him think meeting you was his idea. When this happens he’ll take over from there.

Remember to go old-school and learn something new.

Have a guy introduce you to another guy gives you instant credibility without being try-hard.

Nonchalantly asking a man for help, will have men walking straight into conversations with you.

A conversation is all you need; because a conversation is the beginning of a date.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

How To Build ATTRACTION That Lasts Forever

When you meet a guy, either you have chemistry or you don’t.

No matter how good a guy is on paper, if your body doesn’t like him, you’ve got no chance.

However, attraction is something you can build. There are three keys to creating attraction you want to know, if you want a relationship that lasts.

1. Anticipation. Building attraction requires anticipation. This means if you want to have a long-term relationship you need to start thinking long-term.

The way to do this is to remember that anticipation outranks consummation.

In other words, the longer you wait before you have sex, the more attraction you’ll build.

Sex doesn’t build attraction, anticipation does.

2. Have a fight. I’m not saying go out of your way to have a fight. I’m saying you don’t really know someone until you do.

Attraction is increased when you’re able to stay with people, even on the days when you don’t like them.

Having a fight is not what builds attraction. It’s the ability to get through it, that makes your attraction stronger.

3. Make a commitment. When you’re sitting on the fence, not much happens in any aspect of your life. When you commit to another human being you awaken attraction you might not even know you had.

Attraction is built when you can count on someone to do what they say they’re going to do.

A relationship is a conversation that doesn’t end, and a series of kept agreements. This is the practical definition of lasting love.

If you want to build attraction that lasts you’ll need anticipation. Fighting is not the end of a relationship, it’s a sign you’re beginning to care.

A commitment takes your chemistry to another level. A level where you can build your attraction into a love that lasts forever.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of  information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

3 REAL Reasons You’re Chronically Single

What’s really going on in your dating life?

You’re dating but you’re not meeting anyone you like. You’re busy with life and you have a full calendar of things to do. You’re meeting guys but there not going anywhere. This has been going on for years.

While it may seem like you’re doing everything you can to meet a guy. Including calling your girlfriends about men. There are three things that are missing. Lets talk about them now.

1. You don’t answer calls. When a guy calls you, you don’t answer him for three days. When I ask you why you do this, you tell me that you don’t want to seem too available. That’s funny because a guy is looking for a woman who’s available.

When you finally do call him back after three days he doesn’t answer. And then guess what happens, he doesn’t call you for three days. Then we get into a game of who is cooler than who. The way we start a relationship is the way it ends, to avoid being chronically single. Answer his calls.

2. You’re chronically unavailable. When I guy finally gets hold of you and asks you for a date. You’re unavailable for two weeks. You then let him know that you can see him in three weeks.

While I appreciate that you’re busy and have a full life of friends and business. Did I mention that a guy is looking for a woman who’s available?

Being busy doesn’t make you cool, it just makes you unavailable. Real men don’t waste their time on women who aren’t available for three weeks.

3. You’re in charge. He asks you to go to the park and take a walk. You decide the park is too far away and you don’t like it outdoors. You’d rather go to the coffee shop by your house. Great you know what you want. The problem is real men are not accustomed to following you around, doing it your way.

While your request seems perfectly reasonable to you. It’s signals a man you’re not interested in being on a team, where you’re not the captain. I get arguments about this all the time, but in the end it really comes down to, are you willing to do things for the sake of the team that you wouldn’t ordinarily do.

When you answer his calls, he can make a plan with you. When a man meets you, to him it’s all about momentum. When he asks you to do something and you’re available, he has momentum. This signals him that you’re available. Available means this week not in three weeks.

Lastly do it his way. The reason you want to do it his way, is because you want to find out how he handles reality. You want to know if the way he lives life is something you would enjoy. Doing it your way may seem comfortable to you however let’s look at the results. Is not answering his calls, being unavailable, and being in charge, keeping you chronically single?

If you’re an Alpha woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love

By James Hanrahan

How To Say No To A Guy You’re Dating [That WORKS]

You have to know how, and when to say no to men.

You meet him at a party. You like him and you’ve got chemistry. Now the moment you’ve been waiting for. Yes, he asks for your number and sounds like he wants a date.

He calls you the next day and you’re excited to hear from him. That is until you hear his plan. “How about you meet me at the sports bar around 10 PM. It’s close to my house and I’ll meet you over there.”

You’re shocked and angered at his insensitivity. Doesn’t he know you’re a woman and the sports bar is on the bad side of town. You’re certainty not comfortable going there by yourself, but you have one small problem. How do you say no to a guy you just met and you’re interested in dating?

The first thing you do is you let him know you appreciate is somewhat ludicrous plan. You do this by saying, “I really appreciate you wanting to invite me over to the sports bar late at night, on the dark side of town. However I don’t feel comfortable, I’m a woman and it doesn’t feel good for me to do that.

Then you ask him the million dollar question. “What do you think?” Afterward you become all ears, because you want to listen for his answer.

If he says something along the lines “Hey, don’t worry about it. It’s not that late, the neighborhood is safe and you have nothing to worry about.” You’ve now gathered some very important information. He doesn’t care how you feel.

It’s called getting to know you. This is why you date men, you want to find out how they handle reality.

If on the other hand he says “I understand. Hey, let me come get you and pick you up. We’ll go earlier. I’ll take you somewhere closer to your house and we’ll get something to eat.”  this is a man who cares about how you feel.

It’s important to say no to a guy when he asks you for something that you don’t feel comfortable with. Trust your feelings and when he comes up with some outrageous request simply state.

“I appreciate your (outrageous) offer however I don’t feel comfortable meeting you in a dark alley at 2 AM in a bad neighborhood. What do you think?

A man who cares about how you feel is your man. A man who belittles or discounts your feelings and requests is too selfish to be in a relationship.

Men demonstrate love by being selfless and caring about you. Women love by being self-centered and knowing how and when to say no.

James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.

What Guys Are REALLY Looking For In A Relationship
3 How To Meet Men Offline EASILY Secrets
How To Build ATTRACTION That Lasts Forever
3 REAL Reasons You’re Chronically Single
How To Say No To A Guy You’re Dating [That WORKS]