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By James Hanrahan

3 Ways To Tell If He’s EVER Going To Be Ready To Commit

When you been dating a guy for a while it’s hard to tell if he’s ever going to be ready to commit.

One day he’s talking about getting you a ring and dreaming about a future, the next you’re getting the cold shoulder.

Before you spend any more time trying to figure him out. Here are three ways to tell if he’s ever going to be ready to commit.

1. A plan.

The first and most important thing is, does he have an actual concrete plan to commit.

Has he told you when he wants to get engaged or married to you? Or when he wants to get you a ring.

Without a specific time frame, you don’t have a plan, you have a dream.

Speaking of time if a man has been dating you for over a year and has no plan, it’s a major red flag he’s not going to commit.

When a guy is on the fence he tends to stay on the fence.

2. Purpose.

Every person and every relationship must have a purpose. If you and your guy or not aiming toward something, building a family, getting a house, getting married etc. the relationship will stagnate.

What makes a relationship exciting and causes you to grow are new challenges.

When you face them together your relationship gets stronger. Without them, your relationship will become boring and he’ll wonder why he’s not excited to see you.

Men have to have a purpose for themselves in life and for the relationship with you.

3. Time.

Men by nature don’t have a sense of urgency to have children. They’re perfectly fine with having children someday.

Unfortunately, this is not going to work for you. If you’re hoping by avoiding the topic and by having a good time, he will suddenly come around. This is a poor strategy.

Men are all about momentum. If after a year of dating you, he doesn’t have a plan you’re losing momentum.

I strongly suggest you require a plan, know what the purpose of your relationship is, and don’t let time slip away on you.

Men commit to what you require to be in a relationship. You have to know what that is for you. The key here is to love him, but not more than yourself.

When you’re willing to walk away when necessary from a man who doesn’t have a plan or a purpose, you’re ready to be with one who does.

Hopefully, you will inspire the guy you’re with to take the journey with you. Having a plan and a purpose are concepts a man can relate to.

Either way, you will know by his actions if he’s ever going to be ready to commit and you can decide what’s best for you. Love him, but not more than yourself.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

How To Know When A Relationship Is REALLY Over

When you still have feelings for a guy it’s hard to tell when a relationship is really over.

It’s normal to have mixed feelings and for there to be a back-and-forth period.

However when a relationship is finally over you will have the feelings I’m about to describe to you.

But first let’s look at the feelings that show the relationship isn’t over.

1. You’re mad.

Unfortunately, when you’re mad you’re not done with the relationship. Anger means you still care and you still have hope that by fighting you can solve the problem.

This may or may not be true and fighting is not the end of a relationship. In fact, as I said, it’s a sign you’re not done yet.

2. You’re sad.

Feeling sad or hurt are strong emotions but, much like anger they still show you care and you have hope you can repair the relationship.

These feelings are valuable and it’s important to stay until the end of a relationship. Because if you don’t stay to the end of the relationship and get the lesson, you’ll repeat the lesson with someone else.

If you’re still mad or sad do everything you can to work things out or, until you reach the next two feelings that let you know when a relationship is over.

3. Apathy and Empathy.

Apathy and empathy are the signals to you that a relationship is over. Apathy means that you’re no longer mad or sad. You care about the person but you know longer have those charged feelings.

Empathy means you still care about the person, but you know longer feel drawn to try to work it out with them, because you’ve gotten the lesson.

How do you know when you’ve gotten the lesson? When you no longer want to repeat the lesson. You’re grateful for having had the person in your life, but you’re ready to move on, because you’ve changed.

If you’re still mad or sad, stay until you get the lesson, or you work things out. Apathy and empathy are the feelings you have when a relationship is over. They are the signs you’ve grown from the relationship and you’re ready to move on.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

The REAL Reason Why Men Suddenly Disappear On You Solution

When you first met him, he could do no wrong. Now he’s your boyfriend or at the very least, soon to be.

Unfortunately along with this title comes the real reason why a guy suddenly disappears.

It’s subtle, and you’re probably not even aware you’re doing it, because you just want him to do better.

This is understandable, however it’s all in how you do it. Let’s look at why he disappears, and the solution on how to change it.

!. Obligation.

To put it simply, obligation is not attractive.

When a man feels obligated to spend time you, have sex with you, or give you affection because he’s your boyfriend and should be doing those things, he’s on the way to disappearing.

Is there anything wrong with wanting those things? Of course not. it’s just that obligation is not the way to get them.

Here’s a better way to get them. It’s the very way you got them in the first place.

2. Attraction.

When a man feels the weight of obligation he suddenly wants space. The moment he has space he remembers he’s attracted to you.

For a man attraction happens because it’s fun to be with you, just like when you met him.

The ironic things is once he’s attracted to you, he’ll do anything for you. Just like in the beginning. Why? Because it’s his idea.

3. The tipping point.

Before a man disappears, he will ask himself. “Am I obligated to be in this relationship or am I attracted to her?”

Attraction happens naturally when you remove obligation from the equation. He will suddenly remember why he likes you, and want to do things with you.

If you have chemistry and connection, you already have something magical. The tipping point works in your favor when you allow attraction to guide your relationship. Attraction is the solution at your finger tips, just like when you first met.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

The REAL Reason Men Want To Take A Break [According To A Guy]

If he wants to talk. Do you want to listen?

When a guy gears up and starts giving you his I want to take a break speech. It’s time to reconsider. It’s not him who needs a break, it’s you.

You spent a lot of time with this guy, and now he’s giving you the speech? Is that what you really want?

Speeches are for guys who are about to lie. Lie to themselves, and then lie to you. They always start with something dramatic.

Dramatic reasons like “I just don’t know where I’m going with my life.” “Or I’ve got a lot of pressure.” Sound good if you were a therapist.

Before you sign up for an extended leave of absence, consider this. Guys that don’t know what they want rarely figure it out over time.

What gets him to figure it out? The pain of losing you. I suggest you start that process right away. Here’s how to do it.

“You have every right to want to take a break and not see me, however I don’t feel comfortable. What do you think about ending the relationship right now?”

He’ll stumble out something like “ok, if that’s what you want.” And there you have your answer. If a man is not willing to fight for you, he doesn’t need a break. He’s broken.

Broken people never know what they want. They portray themselves as confused victims. If you stick around for this, you’re only hurting yourself.

When a guy says he wants a break, thank him for the experience. Let him know how much you’ve enjoyed your time together and you understand.

Remember when I guy says he needs a break, that means he’s broken. It has nothing to do with you, and it’s not your job to fix him. You can love him, just not more than yourself.

Thank him for the lesson. Thank God he didn’t waste anymore of your time and move on, a better relationship awaits you. We always trade up.

If you’re an Alpha women struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.

3 Ways To Tell If He’s EVER Going To Be Ready To Commit
How To Know When A Relationship Is REALLY Over
The REAL Reason Why Men Suddenly Disappear On You Solution
The REAL Reason Men Want To Take A Break [According To A Guy]