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by James Hanrahan

He’s got wrong guy written all over him.

You met him and you know he’s wrong. You haven’t felt this bad in years. Yet for some strange reason you’re still attracted to him. These are all symptoms that you’re with the wrong guy.

Before you go and hire a therapist. Lets look into three reasons why you’re dating the wrong guy and what to do about it.

1. There are no accidents. We always date the right wrong person until we get the lesson. It’s not that you’re dating the wrong guy, it’s that you haven’t gotten the lesson yet.

The funny thing about dating the wrong people is there always trying to teach us the same thing. Love yourself. These lessons in self-love are painful but when you get it, it’s worth it.

2. You needed the lesson. As much as I joke about going to a therapist. Therapy is always in session. It’s called re-creating your childhood. Our childhood wounds definitely come to the surface when we date.

The wrong guy is often strikingly like your dad. What a coincidence. Good news is he’s bringing you the lesson and you have a chance to choose differently. You know you’ve learned a lesson when you’re no longer want to repeat the lesson.

3. We always trade up. Yes there is a silver lining. When we let go of a bad relationship we make room for a good one. The good news is you’re aware you’re dating the wrong guy. Awareness wakes us up and allows us to make new choices.

Your next relationship will start on higher ground. When you’re dating the wrong guy it’s hard to see how things could get better. But when you take personal responsibility and you remember there are no accidents, change is on the way.

There’s nothing wrong with the wrong guy. He’s just not the right guy for you. Thank him for the lesson and move on. Some of the best relationship decisions you’ll ever make are the ones you let go of.

If you’re still struggling to figure out if you’re dating the wrong guy or not. Ask yourself one simple question.

When I’m with this guy do I feel good or do I not feel good? If the answer is you don’t feel good you have your answer.

The hard part is to walk away even when it hurts. Sometimes that’s what self love is all about. Theories are nice, but our actions are how we heal from dating the wrong guy.

If you’re an Alpha woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.

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