In some ways, it’s never been easier to get a guy. A few swipes right and the parade appears. At the same time, disappearing acts have never been more prevalent. What’s a girl to do?
Getting a guy long-term requires a different strategy. It takes one that’s been proven for thousands of years.
With that in mind, here are 3 proven secrets of courtship used for centuries, that will help you not only to get a guy but keep him.
1 Time
In a world of instant gratification time is often the last thing we think of. However, courtship is a test of time and you can use it to your advantage.
One of the secrets to getting a guy and keeping him is to add the element of time. This means contrary to popular belief, and for best results, you get to know him slowly.
The most valuable thing we have is time. When a man is willing to invest his time to get to know you and be with you, he’s signaling you that his intent is sincere and he cares about you as a human being.
2 Space
The second secret of courtship with men is, men require space. Any semblance of pressure from you can turn them into a major flight risk.
The essence of courtship is one person chasing the other. Men love to chase they just don’t want to be caught. Knowing this will change your strategy and allow you to be pursued.
Space gives a man the feeling that it’s his idea and he’s coming toward you. When you don’t call or text him or try to run him down, for example, an authentic courtship can begin. Remember courtship is one person chasing the other, and it usually works best when your man does the chasing.
3 Play
Never forget that courtship at its essence is playful. Seriousness at the wrong time can turn your courtship into a drama.
Flirting, dropping a handkerchief, smiling, and looking in the eyes are all playful acts, that will lead you to something more serious.
Ironically, when a man feels you have the ability to play with him, he will take you more seriously. The key to the dance is that by playing with him, he will be enticed to win you over.
Courtship is definitely a test of time, it’s like planting a seed in the ground. It takes at least a year to get to know somebody and you want to see them in all seasons.
Music is created by the space between the notes. When you give a man room, he will be inspired to come closer to you. There’s no better feeling than when your patience in this regard pays off.
Playfulness makes a man want to be with you more and more. It’s the joys and challenges in life that keep us coming back.
History is full of courtships that have stood the test of time. Use the secrets of courtship and you will be amazed at your results.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free weekly Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys, connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.
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