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by James Hanrahan

It is so hard to tell when you’ve met the right person. It starts with chemistry, but this is no guarantee that it will be the right relationship for you.

One way to get a handle on what you want is to know what you don’t want. There are a few red flags that can be indicators you’re in the wrong relationship, and knowing them can save you a lot of heartaches.

With that in mind, here are 3 signs you’re in the wrong with a relationship that will help you decide what’s right for you.

1. It’s work

The old adage is, relationships take work. While there is an obvious truth to this, it shouldn’t be like you’re pushing a rock uphill, only to watch it roll back down again.

Work that accomplishes nothing and where you see no improvement or change is a sign you in the wrong relationship.

There needs to be a willingness and openness to change in a partner, along with the ability to take personal responsibility, otherwise, it can be extremely frustrating and you will get nowhere.

 2. Fatigue 

If you find yourself exhausted from unproductive fighting, this is also a sign you may be in the wrong relationship. Productive fighting is not the end of a relationship, in fact, it’s often the beginning, however, unproductive and unresolved fighting is a red flag.

Emotional stress takes its toll and one of the signs you have it, is your nerves become raw and you feel extremely fatigued.

If you find yourself, often at your wit’s end, it may be time to examine what your body is trying to tell you because the body doesn’t lie.

3. Confusion

When you continually find yourself not understanding what’s going on in a relationship, the mixed signals can give you a sense that confusion is setting in.

Confusion is often a sign and tactic of toxic people in your life. People with the ability to love are straightforward and can make and keep agreements. If you constantly find yourself wondering what’s going on, maybe it’s because there’s something wrong.

Clarity comes from the ability to ask for what you want and says no to what you don’t want. If you are often in confusion, it may be time to approach your partner and see if you can make agreements. People who know how to love can make and keep agreements, people who don’t know how to love, often make agreements they just don’t keep them.

Work is something we do with the intention to improve. If you are just spinning your wheels, this is not a good sign.

Fatigue is telling you something because when you’re emotions are being drained the body will demonstrate it.

Confusion can cause you to second-guess yourself and often keep you in the wrong relationship. Check-in with yourself and trust your intuition.

Being in the wrong relationship can take its toll on you, but being aware of the signs can give you clarity and put you back on the road to what you want.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys,connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.

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3 Signs You’re In The Wrong Relationship