When you meet a guy you like it can seems like a miracle.
When he starts out treating you like a queen, it’s exciting.
The hard part is when he starts slowing down, not texting as much, not calling and planning dates. This can lead you to believe he’s not interested in you.
With that in mind here are three ways to keep him interested and to understand how men think.
1. The slow down.
It’s natural when a guy first meets you for him to want to spend all his time with you. He’s focused on the goal of being with you. The infatuation phase is like a bubble for just the two of you.
It’s also natural after a few weeks for him to slow down. This is not necessarily a bad thing.
Since he’s probably been neglecting his friends, work and hobbies he’s just coming back into balance. For a guy to have a relationship with you, in the long run, he will need to integrate you into the rest of his life.
The key is to not take it personally and ask him what’s wrong.
Once you understand that this is natural, give him space and he will come bouncing back to you.
2. He takes you for granted.
Once a guy has you he considers you part of his life. This may seem like bad news because he takes you for granted.
Actually, ironically this is good news because he now considers himself to be in a relationship with you.
I’m not suggesting that he can treat you badly, I’m suggesting that he treats you as a normal, everyday part of his life. This is a very good thing that means you can start building a life together.
3. Keep your boundaries.
While he may be normalizing, you want to remind him that the courtship of you is not over.
You do this by not accepting last-minute invitations and by spending time with your friends and your hobbies.
You may be tempted to want to spend all your time with him, but trust the spaces in between.
Men fall in love when they’re away from you.
When he slows down know that it’s natural and don’t try to speed him back up.
If you start to think he’s taking you for granted, reframe it. This means you’re part of his life which is a good thing, within reason.
Always keep your boundaries and let him know when things don’t feel good.
This is the key to keeping him interested because it causes him to stretch to be in a relationship with you.
Your boundaries require him to be a better man. This is the unconscious reason he fell in love with you in the first place and the reason your relationship will last for the long run.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.
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