By James Hanrahan

3 REAL Reasons You’re Chronically Single

What’s really going on in your dating life?

You’re dating but you’re not meeting anyone you like. You’re busy with life and you have a full calendar of things to do. You’re meeting guys but there not going anywhere. This has been going on for years.

While it may seem like you’re doing everything you can to meet a guy. Including calling your girlfriends about men. There are three things that are missing. Lets talk about them now.

1. You don’t answer calls. When a guy calls you, you don’t answer him for three days. When I ask you why you do this, you tell me that you don’t want to seem too available. That’s funny because a guy is looking for a woman who’s available.

When you finally do call him back after three days he doesn’t answer. And then guess what happens, he doesn’t call you for three days. Then we get into a game of who is cooler than who. The way we start a relationship is the way it ends, to avoid being chronically single. Answer his calls.

2. You’re chronically unavailable. When I guy finally gets hold of you and asks you for a date. You’re unavailable for two weeks. You then let him know that you can see him in three weeks.

While I appreciate that you’re busy and have a full life of friends and business. Did I mention that a guy is looking for a woman who’s available?

Being busy doesn’t make you cool, it just makes you unavailable. Real men don’t waste their time on women who aren’t available for three weeks.

3. You’re in charge. He asks you to go to the park and take a walk. You decide the park is too far away and you don’t like it outdoors. You’d rather go to the coffee shop by your house. Great you know what you want. The problem is real men are not accustomed to following you around, doing it your way.

While your request seems perfectly reasonable to you. It’s signals a man you’re not interested in being on a team, where you’re not the captain. I get arguments about this all the time, but in the end it really comes down to, are you willing to do things for the sake of the team that you wouldn’t ordinarily do.

When you answer his calls, he can make a plan with you. When a man meets you, to him it’s all about momentum. When he asks you to do something and you’re available, he has momentum. This signals him that you’re available. Available means this week not in three weeks.

Lastly do it his way. The reason you want to do it his way, is because you want to find out how he handles reality. You want to know if the way he lives life is something you would enjoy. Doing it your way may seem comfortable to you however let’s look at the results. Is not answering his calls, being unavailable, and being in charge, keeping you chronically single?

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James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love