By James Hanrahan

How To Get A Guy To Want A Relationship That Lasts The RIGHT Way

It’s been a few dates and now the guy you’re with wants to do something you’re uncomfortable with unless you’re in a relationship.

You explain this to him and then he magically disappears.

This leads us to believe he’s an uncommitted jerk, which may be true; or it’s not what you say it’s how you say it.

When you throw out the word relationship too soon men freeze.

For one; if there’s going to be a relationship it has to be his idea.

For two; a relationship is something that happens overtime and shared experiences. It’s not something you can ask for, it’s something that you have.

Look at your girlfriends. Did you ever ask them to be in a relationship?

Getting back to it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. After a few dates the truth is you’re not ready for a relationship. You are ready to get to know him better.

If he’s ready and you’re not ready to do something; for example sex. Use this formula.

First let him know what you like about him and how much you enjoy being with him. Then say however I feel I don’t want to have sex until I know you better. What do you think?

The answer is more valuable than the question.

Here you get to find out if he cares about your feelings. If he does, good news he will get to know you better.

If not, good news you won’t be wasting your time talking about having a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

It’s rare that you have to ask a man if you’re in a relationship. It usually means you’re not.

Actions speak louder than words especially when it comes to men. A man who’s willing to get to know you, is a man who wants a relationship that lasts, the right way.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.