By James Hanrahan

3 Secrets Men WANT In Women They Love

Here’s how to make sure he wants you.

There’s an old saying everyone wants to buy, no one wants to be sold. This is especially true of men. When a guy meets you, he wants to buy you.

He wants to think he has discovered something so special that he has to have it. There also needs to be an element of risk, meaning he’s not sure if he can get it.

With that in mind here are the 3 secrets that make men want you.

1. Never ask where is this relationship going. When you ask him where the relationship is going he knows he owns you.

Suddenly he feels you’re trying to sell him something. This is not a good position for you. If you find yourself wondering where a relationship is going, chances are it’s going nowhere.

But, “James I really want to know where the relationship is going.” If you want to know where it’s going, tell him what you require to be in a relationship generally, not with him specifically and see if he’s willing to negotiate with you from there.

2. Know your worth. Men will pay any price to have you, and when it comes to love they’re not looking for a bargain. The world will only pay you what you think you’re worth. A woman who places a high value on herself gets paid in return.

If you second-guess yourself, you will sell yourself short. Men will test you. They will test your patience to see if they can get a cheap deal and get you to take over the responsibility for the relationship. Remember to resist the urge to sell him anything.

3. Know when to say no. Men respect a woman with standards and boundaries. When you say no to a man when it’s appropriate, it lets him know that you’re not a pushover. If he wants to be with you he will have to earn it.

Saying no means I’m willing to lose you, however I’m not willing to lose myself.

Self-love is very attractive to a man, it means he can count on you. It lets him know you’re a real person and won’t be taken lightly.

Remember never ask a man where a relationship is going, when you do a man thinks he owns you. A man buys you when you know your self-worth, and know when to say no. This is what men want in the women they love.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.