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17
Aug, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 Ways How Men Bond With Women For the Long Run

Here are the ingredients of a man in it for the long-run.

When you meet a guy who’s attracted to you, it’s great. But, as you know from experience this is not enough.

After you’ve seen a few guys come and go it becomes important to know how men bond with women.

With that in mind, here are 3 ways a guy will bond with you if you have them in this order.

1. He starts out slow.

A guy who can be in a relationship for the long run starts out slow. I call it starting at level 5. He takes his time getting to know you because he knows it takes more than just chemistry to be in a relationship.

Guys who start at level 10 are all about chemistry. They start out strong and want to be with you all the time. The challenge is they can’t keep up the pace and quickly lose interest because they’re not building anything with you.

A guy who starts at level 5 has room to grow and bond with you. It takes time and shared experiences to bond with a guy. A guy who can be with you for the long run starts out slow. He wants to know you.

2. He builds momentum.

Men bond as they build momentum with you. It shows as he starts to see you more and make you a part of his life.

It’s not enough that he starts slow there has to be a feeling that he is building momentum with you.

If you find yourself getting into a pattern of just seeing him once a week for a date over a long period of time, then he doesn’t have momentum with you.

A guy with momentum starts making plans ahead and ask you how you feel about them. He’s not just living week to week with you.

A good question to ask yourself is “do you feel you have momentum with him?”

3. He has an eye for the finish line.

The final piece of the puzzle is men bond when they commit to you.

This happens when he asks you to stop dating other people and be exclusive with him.

When he starts talking about and making long-range plans with you.

When he’s introducing you to family and friends and you’re becoming a part of his life. And finally of course when he asks you to marry him.

You will notice that he wants to take more and more responsibility for you. This means he includes you in his decisions in life and asks you how you feel about them. In other words, he wants to build a life with you.

Men bond when they start out slow and get to know you as a human being. Time and shared experiences are the way a man opens his heart.

Momentum is key for a man. A man who’s building with you is bonding with you.

A man who can see the finish line and shares his vision with you is a man you can be with for the long run.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

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20
May, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 UNMISTAKABLE Signs a Man’s in Love With You

When you want to know if a man is in love with you, it doesn’t matter what he says. It matters what he does.

For men love is a verb and when he’s in love with you, he takes action.

With that in mind, here are three actions that are clear signs he’s in love with you.

1. Momentum.

Men are all about momentum. From the moment he meets you and gets your number, if he calls you right away and makes an effort to see you, he’s on his way to being in love with you.

If he can wait a few weeks to see you, or sees you once and then waits for another month, he doesn’t have momentum and he’s wasting your time.

The first thing to look for is, does he have momentum.

2. Escalation.

Lots of guys start out fast. They want to see you all the time and then suddenly vanish.

A guy who’s falling in love with you, wants to build something with you.

This means he wants to do a variety of things with you. He wants you to meet his friends, his family etc. you feel he’s including you in his life.

Escalation means he’s not just dating and having sex with you. He’s building a life with you and adding complexity to what you do together.

3. Responsibility.

When a man falls in love with you he suddenly wants to give up his freedom that he values so highly, and be responsible for you.

This simply means he takes your feelings into account and there are no sudden disappearing acts. He makes and keeps agreements with you without hesitation.

When a man falls in love with you being in a relationship is his idea. He asks you to be exclusive because he doesn’t want to lose you. He has momentum and he’s goal oriented. The goal is to be with you.

He invites you into his life and you feel the relationship is escalating. You sense, he cares about how you feel and he welcomes the responsibility to make long-range plans with you. These are the signs, and this is how to tell a man’s in love with you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of  men’s secrets to fall in love in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

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10
May, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 Secret Ways To Tell He’s Crazy About You

When you want to know if a guy likes you, it’s important to know what to look for.

The confusion starts when you start to analyze what he’s saying.
There’s an easier way, in fact there are three telltale signs he’s crazy about you.
With that in mind, here are the three things to look for.
1. He wants to give to you.
When a man is crazy about you, he can’t help but want to give you things.
Dinners, movies and gifts may seem unimportant or outdated, but when a man consistently gives them to you. He’s falling in love.
For your part saying “thank you for ____” fill in the blank, is music to his ears and will keep the dance going.
2. He wants to protect you.
While this may seem primitive, it’s still instinctual for man who cares about you to want to protect you.
The modern day version of this is that he cares about the condition of your car, that you get home okay, etc.
He cares about where you are in time and space and pays attention to how you’re doing.
3. He cares about how you feel.
When a man starts to care about how you feel in regards to what he’s doing. He’s definitely crazy about you.
This means the long-term relationship switch in his brain is turned on.
This is especially true when you have a disagreement and he takes your feelings into consideration.
Men fall in love when they give, make no mistake about it. 
If he makes an effort to protect you and cares where you are in time and space, the green light is on.
When he tells you what he thinks and asks you how you feel about it, he’s wiring himself for a relationship. In other words, he’s crazy about you.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s steps to fall in love in A Life of Love.
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27
Feb, 2017

By James Hanrahan

The One SECRET Word That Makes A Man Commit Fast

You know he wants you. He can’t keep his hands off of you and he’s trying to tear your clothes off.

However you’ve been down this road before and you know, tearing your clothes off doesn’t lead to commitment.

Before you decide “what the hell what’s one more hay-ride.” Might I suggest you use the one secret word that makes a man commit fast.

Now I’m not saying you’re not going to meet resistance. You’re going to have to be comfortable with that.

Also you’re going to have to use this word at the right time. Let’s start with when’s the right time.

The right time is when he wants to have intercourse with you. I’m going to be specific here, because if you’re just making out, that’s not the right time.

The right time is when he wants to have intercourse with you.

Once he wants to have intercourse with you, you’re ready for the magic word. The magic word is “UNTIL.” Until? James until what? Well that depends on where you’re at.

For example; let’s say you just met a guy at the club, you’ve been dancing all night and he wants to go home with you. You’re making out in the car, when you are invited to the proverbial your place or mine.

Then “UNTIL” becomes. For example; “I really like you and appreciate you inviting me to your place or mine however I don’t feel comfortable doing that UNTIL I get to know you better. What do you think?”

The use of “UNTIL” allows you to:

1. Let a man know that you like him.

2. That you have boundaries and requirements.

3. What those boundaries and requirements are.

A man commits fast when he realizes he cares about you how you feel, respects what you think, and is willing to negotiate with you.

“UNTIL” allows you to set a standard that he can commit to. It takes you out of the category of a hook up and into the category of a serious relationship.

Once a man agrees to take the time to get to know you, he’s on the way to being committed to you fast.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in A Life of Love.

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3 Ways How Men Bond With Women For the Long Run
3 UNMISTAKABLE Signs a Man’s in Love With You
3 Secret Ways To Tell He’s Crazy About You
The One SECRET Word That Makes A Man Commit Fast