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03
Mar, 2018

By James Hanrahan

How To Make A Guy Totally Infatuated With You

Turning him on is just the beginning…
If you’ve ever wondered what makes a guy infatuated with you, it’s a good point to consider.
Chemistry is the foundation of any relationship and we live too long to be without it. This is especially true for men as well as you.
Men are visual, the moment they lay their eyes on you they instantly know if they’re infatuated with you or not.
With that in mind here are three points to consider that make men infatuated with you.
 
1. Get in his eyes.
Infatuation starts with eye contact. The eyes are the windows to the soul and when you open them a man can fall deeply in love with you.
Men are looking for a connection. When you make eye contact and smile at him he sees it as an invitation to connect with you.
Many of my clients tell me that when they’re attracted to a guy they don’t look at him. This is obviously counterproductive. It doesn’t work with a gentleman. Drunks and players will approach you without eye contact, gentleman will look for a signal from you.
Looking in the eyes of a man will put you miles ahead of other women. Try it and see the results.
2. Let him in your ears.
Infatuation for you as a woman is important. And the way to get it is to let him get into your ears.
Listen to what he has to say, find out what he’s doing in his life, and what if any future plans he has for you

A man with a plan becomes more and more attractive over time.
When a man is infatuated with you he will tell you everything you need to hear. If you don’t hear things that sound good, he’s not infatuated with you and it’s time to move on.
3. Get into his heart.
You want to move a man. You do this by getting into his heart. Men are attracted to you when it’s easy to be with you. When they sense you respect them and want to know what they think.
This is the subtlety that’s often missed with infatuation. Men are not just looking at you there looking through you. They intuitively know if you’re right for them. They do this by gauging if they’re comfortable with you. If it’s a fun and playful experience that leads to something more serious.
It starts when you look him in the eyes. It sparks when he begins a conversation with you.
When he’s talking listen carefully. Men will tell you everything you need to hear right from the beginning.
When you’re able to get to his heart you’re on your way to building something that’s bigger than the initial infatuation. A solid man is a joy to be with.
This is just the beginning of your adventure together. Get in his eyes, listen with your ears and you’ll unlock his heart. Men want to fall in love with you its what they’re looking for.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice For Alpha Women.

 

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11
Jul, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 Ways To Keep Him Interested In A Relationship With You

When you meet a guy you like it can seems like a miracle.

When he starts out treating you like a queen, it’s exciting.

The hard part is when he starts slowing down, not texting as much, not calling and planning dates. This can lead you to believe he’s not interested in you.

With that in mind here are three ways to keep him interested and to understand how men think.

1. The slow down.

It’s natural when a guy first meets you for him to want to spend all his time with you. He’s focused on the goal of being with you. The infatuation phase is like a bubble for just the two of you.

It’s also natural after a few weeks for him to slow down. This is not necessarily a bad thing.

Since he’s probably been neglecting his friends, work and hobbies he’s just coming back into balance. For a guy to have a relationship with you, in the long run, he will need to integrate you into the rest of his life.

The key is to not take it personally and ask him what’s wrong.

Once you understand that this is natural, give him space and he will come bouncing back to you.

2. He takes you for granted.

Once a guy has you he considers you part of his life. This may seem like bad news because he takes you for granted.

Actually, ironically this is good news because he now considers himself to be in a relationship with you.

I’m not suggesting that he can treat you badly, I’m suggesting that he treats you as a normal, everyday part of his life. This is a very good thing that means you can start building a life together.

3. Keep your boundaries.

While he may be normalizing, you want to remind him that the courtship of you is not over.

You do this by not accepting last-minute invitations and by spending time with your friends and your hobbies.

You may be tempted to want to spend all your time with him, but trust the spaces in between.

Men fall in love when they’re away from you.

When he slows down know that it’s natural and don’t try to speed him back up.

If you start to think he’s taking you for granted, reframe it. This means you’re part of his life which is a good thing, within reason.

Always keep your boundaries and let him know when things don’t feel good.

This is the key to keeping him interested because it causes him to stretch to be in a relationship with you.

Your boundaries require him to be a better man. This is the unconscious reason he fell in love with you in the first place and the reason your relationship will last for the long run.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

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28
May, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 Ways To Tell How MUCH A Guy Likes You

When you meet a guy it’s hard to tell how interested he is in you. Is he thinking hook up, relationship, or does he even like you?

A guy’s level of interest basically breaks down into three categories. The categories are lust, like and love.

A relationship has elements of all three. With that in mind, here’s how to tell a guy’s level of interest and how much a guy likes you..

1. Lust.

At this level you can tell he’s definitely attracted to you and wants to hook up. This is a good start, the problem is when it’s also the finish line.

This means he gets stuck at this level and isn’t interested in taking the time to get to know you.

For example he tries to make out with you and if you don’t immediately return the favor, he loses interest. This is because he’s not at the second level. The second level is…

2. Like.

The difference between a man who can have a relationship and a guy who can only hook up is found at this level.

As crazy as it sounds, a man who can have a relationship with you, likes you. The way you tell he likes you is he enjoys spending time with you and he doesn’t care what you’re doing.

A guy whose stuck at the lust level is only concerned with having sex. A guy at the like level enjoys getting to know you, because he likes you.

3. Love.

When you put things together the chemistry of lust get you in the game.

The friendship of like shows a man has an interest in your humanity.

To know if a man is at the level of love with you, plays out over time. It shows in his ability to make and keep agreements with you consistently.

It shows in his desire to build with you. A man at the level of love sees you in his future and creates a roadmap to get there. He knows how to blend his lust and like for you, into a love that lasts. You can measure a man’s ability to love you, by how much he likes you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s steps to fall in love in A Life of Love.

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20
May, 2017

By James Hanrahan

3 UNMISTAKABLE Signs a Man’s in Love With You

When you want to know if a man is in love with you, it doesn’t matter what he says. It matters what he does.

For men love is a verb and when he’s in love with you, he takes action.

With that in mind, here are three actions that are clear signs he’s in love with you.

1. Momentum.

Men are all about momentum. From the moment he meets you and gets your number, if he calls you right away and makes an effort to see you, he’s on his way to being in love with you.

If he can wait a few weeks to see you, or sees you once and then waits for another month, he doesn’t have momentum and he’s wasting your time.

The first thing to look for is, does he have momentum.

2. Escalation.

Lots of guys start out fast. They want to see you all the time and then suddenly vanish.

A guy who’s falling in love with you, wants to build something with you.

This means he wants to do a variety of things with you. He wants you to meet his friends, his family etc. you feel he’s including you in his life.

Escalation means he’s not just dating and having sex with you. He’s building a life with you and adding complexity to what you do together.

3. Responsibility.

When a man falls in love with you he suddenly wants to give up his freedom that he values so highly, and be responsible for you.

This simply means he takes your feelings into account and there are no sudden disappearing acts. He makes and keeps agreements with you without hesitation.

When a man falls in love with you being in a relationship is his idea. He asks you to be exclusive because he doesn’t want to lose you. He has momentum and he’s goal oriented. The goal is to be with you.

He invites you into his life and you feel the relationship is escalating. You sense, he cares about how you feel and he welcomes the responsibility to make long-range plans with you. These are the signs, and this is how to tell a man’s in love with you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of  men’s secrets to fall in love in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

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26
Jan, 2017

By James Hanrahan

The Turn Him ON Slow Formula That Attracts Quality Men

When a guy likes you, he’s turned on and he can’t help himself. His enthusiasm is off the charts. He wants to see you all the time and he’s got big plans.

Enthusiasm is important and you want a man to have it. The only problem is it distorts his sense of reality. This is where you come in.

In order to turn his enthusiasm into reality you’re going to have to slow him down without squelching his enthusiastic bliss.

The hard part is to turn his enthusiasm into responsibility. This is done by letting him know what you require to be in a relationship.

Men demonstrate love by what they’re willing to be responsible for. This means you can count on him for more than just the feeling of love.

Slowing a man down allows him to consider the more practical aspects of a relationship. It requires him to come up with a plan.

The first way to slow a man down and the most sobering is to not have intercourse with him until you get to know him better.

You do this by letting him know that you think he’s smart, funny, handsome etc. however you don’t feel comfortable having intercourse until you get to know him better.

This allows him to get to know you as a human being, not just someone he’s attracted to.

When a man gets overly focused on sex, he loses sight of reality and stops making plans with you.

Slowing him down allows him to stay enthusiastic about having a relationship with you and winning you over. When a man is focused on reality and creating a definitive plan for you, he’s turned on slow and you’re on your way to having a long-term relationship.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.

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How To Make A Guy Totally Infatuated With You
3 Ways To Keep Him Interested In A Relationship With You
3 Ways To Tell How MUCH A Guy Likes You
3 UNMISTAKABLE Signs a Man’s in Love With You
The Turn Him ON Slow Formula That Attracts Quality Men