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By James Hanrahan

3 Secrets Why Courtship Gets The Guy

In some ways, it’s never been easier to get a guy. A few swipes right and the parade appears. At the same time, disappearing acts have never been more prevalent. What’s a girl to do?

Getting a guy long-term requires a different strategy. It takes one that’s been proven for thousands of years.

With that in mind, here are 3 proven secrets of courtship used for centuries, that will help you not only to get a guy but keep him.

1 Time

In a world of instant gratification time is often the last thing we think of. However, courtship is a test of time and you can use it to your advantage.

One of the secrets to getting a guy and keeping him is to add the element of time. This means contrary to popular belief, and for best results, you get to know him slowly.

The most valuable thing we have is time. When a man is willing to invest his time to get to know you and be with you, he’s signaling you that his intent is sincere and he cares about you as a human being.

2 Space

The second secret of courtship with men is, men require space. Any semblance of pressure from you can turn them into a major flight risk.

The essence of courtship is one person chasing the other. Men love to chase they just don’t want to be caught. Knowing this will change your strategy and allow you to be pursued.

Space gives a man the feeling that it’s his idea and he’s coming toward you. When you don’t call or text him or try to run him down, for example, an authentic courtship can begin. Remember courtship is one person chasing the other, and it usually works best when your man does the chasing.

3 Play

Never forget that courtship at its essence is playful. Seriousness at the wrong time can turn your courtship into a drama.

Flirting, dropping a handkerchief, smiling, and looking in the eyes are all playful acts, that will lead you to something more serious.

Ironically, when a man feels you have the ability to play with him, he will take you more seriously. The key to the dance is that by playing with him, he will be enticed to win you over.

Courtship is definitely a test of time, it’s like planting a seed in the ground. It takes at least a year to get to know somebody and you want to see them in all seasons.

Music is created by the space between the notes. When you give a man room, he will be inspired to come closer to you. There’s no better feeling than when your patience in this regard pays off.

Playfulness makes a man want to be with you more and more. It’s the joys and challenges in life that keep us coming back.

History is full of courtships that have stood the test of time. Use the secrets of courtship and you will be amazed at your results.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free weekly Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys, connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.

By James Hanrahan

The 3 TRUE Reasons All Your Friends Are Getting Married Not You

When all your friends are getting married, it can start to get annoying. It’s as if there’s some secret formula that no one’s told you about.

You’re happy for them, but it does get you to thinking. How come all my friends are getting married but not me?

To answer that question here are three reasons to consider.

1. They like simple men. You’re attracted to complicated men, the ones you have to figure out. Men who don’t have a plan and are constantly giving you mixed signals.

They like simple men who are straightforward and let them know where they stand. There’s no drama because these men have a plan and let them know what it is.

2. They don’t like drama. You get caught up in the drama and adrenaline rush of not knowing if a guy likes you. They simply move on and get another guy. You think you’re going to change him, they know better.

Drama is a great past time if you’re not going anywhere. It’s like going to the movies; lots of feelings, a roller coaster of emotions, that is, until the lights come on.

3. They know how to be on a team. You’re trying to get what you want from men who don’t want to give it to you. They know how to negotiate.

They asked for what they want and say no to what they don’t want while respecting what a man thinks and caring about how they themselves feel.

They insist on a man who makes and keeps his agreements. You overlook broken promises and hope things will get better.

Your friends are attracted to simple men because they know life is hard enough without having a complicated man.

They don’t like drama because they want to have children and they don’t want to marry an immature man.

They know that being on a team requires a man who can make and keep his agreements and they choose a man who can.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.

3 Secrets Why Courtship Gets The Guy
The 3 TRUE Reasons All Your Friends Are Getting Married Not You