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By James Hanrahan

3 Ways To Tell How MUCH A Guy Likes You

When you meet a guy it’s hard to tell how interested he is in you. Is he thinking hook up, relationship, or does he even like you?

A guy’s level of interest basically breaks down into three categories. The categories are lust, like and love.

A relationship has elements of all three. With that in mind, here’s how to tell a guy’s level of interest and how much a guy likes you..

1. Lust.

At this level you can tell he’s definitely attracted to you and wants to hook up. This is a good start, the problem is when it’s also the finish line.

This means he gets stuck at this level and isn’t interested in taking the time to get to know you.

For example he tries to make out with you and if you don’t immediately return the favor, he loses interest. This is because he’s not at the second level. The second level is…

2. Like.

The difference between a man who can have a relationship and a guy who can only hook up is found at this level.

As crazy as it sounds, a man who can have a relationship with you, likes you. The way you tell he likes you is he enjoys spending time with you and he doesn’t care what you’re doing.

A guy whose stuck at the lust level is only concerned with having sex. A guy at the like level enjoys getting to know you, because he likes you.

3. Love.

When you put things together the chemistry of lust get you in the game.

The friendship of like shows a man has an interest in your humanity.

To know if a man is at the level of love with you, plays out over time. It shows in his ability to make and keep agreements with you consistently.

It shows in his desire to build with you. A man at the level of love sees you in his future and creates a roadmap to get there. He knows how to blend his lust and like for you, into a love that lasts. You can measure a man’s ability to love you, by how much he likes you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s steps to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

3 UNMISTAKABLE Signs a Man’s in Love With You

When you want to know if a man is in love with you, it doesn’t matter what he says. It matters what he does.

For men love is a verb and when he’s in love with you, he takes action.

With that in mind, here are three actions that are clear signs he’s in love with you.

1. Momentum.

Men are all about momentum. From the moment he meets you and gets your number, if he calls you right away and makes an effort to see you, he’s on his way to being in love with you.

If he can wait a few weeks to see you, or sees you once and then waits for another month, he doesn’t have momentum and he’s wasting your time.

The first thing to look for is, does he have momentum.

2. Escalation.

Lots of guys start out fast. They want to see you all the time and then suddenly vanish.

A guy who’s falling in love with you, wants to build something with you.

This means he wants to do a variety of things with you. He wants you to meet his friends, his family etc. you feel he’s including you in his life.

Escalation means he’s not just dating and having sex with you. He’s building a life with you and adding complexity to what you do together.

3. Responsibility.

When a man falls in love with you he suddenly wants to give up his freedom that he values so highly, and be responsible for you.

This simply means he takes your feelings into account and there are no sudden disappearing acts. He makes and keeps agreements with you without hesitation.

When a man falls in love with you being in a relationship is his idea. He asks you to be exclusive because he doesn’t want to lose you. He has momentum and he’s goal oriented. The goal is to be with you.

He invites you into his life and you feel the relationship is escalating. You sense, he cares about how you feel and he welcomes the responsibility to make long-range plans with you. These are the signs, and this is how to tell a man’s in love with you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of  men’s secrets to fall in love in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

By James Hanrahan

3 Secret Ways To Tell He’s Crazy About You

When you want to know if a guy likes you, it’s important to know what to look for.

The confusion starts when you start to analyze what he’s saying.
There’s an easier way, in fact there are three telltale signs he’s crazy about you.
With that in mind, here are the three things to look for.
1. He wants to give to you.
When a man is crazy about you, he can’t help but want to give you things.
Dinners, movies and gifts may seem unimportant or outdated, but when a man consistently gives them to you. He’s falling in love.
For your part saying “thank you for ____” fill in the blank, is music to his ears and will keep the dance going.
2. He wants to protect you.
While this may seem primitive, it’s still instinctual for man who cares about you to want to protect you.
The modern day version of this is that he cares about the condition of your car, that you get home okay, etc.
He cares about where you are in time and space and pays attention to how you’re doing.
3. He cares about how you feel.
When a man starts to care about how you feel in regards to what he’s doing. He’s definitely crazy about you.
This means the long-term relationship switch in his brain is turned on.
This is especially true when you have a disagreement and he takes your feelings into consideration.
Men fall in love when they give, make no mistake about it. 
If he makes an effort to protect you and cares where you are in time and space, the green light is on.
When he tells you what he thinks and asks you how you feel about it, he’s wiring himself for a relationship. In other words, he’s crazy about you.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s steps to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

The REAL Truth About Why You Get Mixed Messages From Men

Men who don’t know what they want constantly send out mixed messages.

They like you, but not enough to really be with you. In other words they’re wasting your time.

The most common and most crazy making example is when a man agrees to do something and then doesn’t do it. It’s called being passive aggressive.

It isn’t uncommon for all of us to at one time or another to not be clear about what we want.

However it’s rarely a good sign when you’re with a man, it usually means a train wreck is about to come.

When you get in to a position of trying to figure out the mixed message of a man you’re in danger of hurting yourself. 

Usually figuring men out means you have a narcissist on your hands.These men are interesting because they know what they want they just don’t care what you want.

Some of the best decisions you’ll ever make in relationships are the one you walk away from.

These are hard decisions because your heart is pulling on you. However,the body doesn’t lie. 

Mixed messages are clear signals coming from your body that you’re overlooking things that don’t feel good.

Real relationships with real men are not mysteries or dramas. They’re between two people who can make and keep agreements.

The best way to clear up mixed messages is to ask. Ask the questions you think you shouldn’t ask and the ones close to your heart.

Intimacy builds from the tough moments not the easy ones. Remember that men who can make and keep agreements and are willing to negotiate with you will last. Those who don’t won’t.

Before you waste anymore time on men with mixed messages. Start by asking for what you want and saying no to what you don’t want.

A man who loves you will want to know.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

3 Ways To Tell How MUCH A Guy Likes You
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3 Secret Ways To Tell He’s Crazy About You
The REAL Truth About Why You Get Mixed Messages From Men