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By James Hanrahan

What Men Really Want In A Relationship (But Don’t Know How To Ask For)

If you’ve ever wondered what men really want in a relationship you’re not alone. Is it sex? Is it love? Is it friendship? Even guys themselves can’t really tell you.

However, there is one thing that men crave. It’s something they can’t do without even though they’re not aware of it.

Sure sex is fun and falling in love is exciting. Everyone knows that friendship is an important part of a relationship, but if you really want to know what men want, you have to understand how they think.

With that in mind, here’s what men really want.

1. Respect.

Men want respect. Men intuitively know that you can only fall in love with a man you respect.

What does respect look like for a man? It means you’re willing to follow his lead and direction.

It’s a simple as, being willing to go where he wants to take you. Being available when he asks you out.

These simple acts signal a man it’s possible to have a relationship with you.

They also give you the opportunity to explore who he is and what he has to offer you.

Men go with women who they believe respect them and who they think they can give a better life.

2. Real men come on strong.

A man who knows what he wants goes after it. This might take some getting used to on your part.

Follow him unless he asks you to do something you don’t feel comfortable with; in which case use your veto right to say “no.”

Men often get ahead of themselves including asking for sex they’re not ready to have. However, it’s not your job to squash their enthusiasm, it’s to let them know what your boundaries are.

3. Dance with him.

Men really want you to move with them. They want to know that you respect who they are and how they are in the world.

When you respect a man he will do anything for you. Men marry women who respect them.

You want a man who comes on strong, knows what he wants and is willing to lead.

You dance with him and let him lead to find out how he handles reality.

A good man always takes your feelings into account. He asks you how you feel about what he thinks and wants.

What do men really want? Respect. How do you give it to him? By being available to explore his leadership to see if he’s the right guy for you.

Will he come on strong? I hope so. I hope he tells you what he wants and asks you how you feel about it.

Dance with him. Find out how he handles reality. If you find out over time that you respect him. He may very well be the right man for you.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.

By James Hanrahan

3 Secrets Men WANT In Women They Love

Here’s how to make sure he wants you.

There’s an old saying everyone wants to buy, no one wants to be sold. This is especially true of men. When a guy meets you, he wants to buy you.

He wants to think he has discovered something so special that he has to have it. There also needs to be an element of risk, meaning he’s not sure if he can get it.

With that in mind here are the 3 secrets that make men want you.

1. Never ask where is this relationship going. When you ask him where the relationship is going he knows he owns you.

Suddenly he feels you’re trying to sell him something. This is not a good position for you. If you find yourself wondering where a relationship is going, chances are it’s going nowhere.

But, “James I really want to know where the relationship is going.” If you want to know where it’s going, tell him what you require to be in a relationship generally, not with him specifically and see if he’s willing to negotiate with you from there.

2. Know your worth. Men will pay any price to have you, and when it comes to love they’re not looking for a bargain. The world will only pay you what you think you’re worth. A woman who places a high value on herself gets paid in return.

If you second-guess yourself, you will sell yourself short. Men will test you. They will test your patience to see if they can get a cheap deal and get you to take over the responsibility for the relationship. Remember to resist the urge to sell him anything.

3. Know when to say no. Men respect a woman with standards and boundaries. When you say no to a man when it’s appropriate, it lets him know that you’re not a pushover. If he wants to be with you he will have to earn it.

Saying no means I’m willing to lose you, however I’m not willing to lose myself.

Self-love is very attractive to a man, it means he can count on you. It lets him know you’re a real person and won’t be taken lightly.

Remember never ask a man where a relationship is going, when you do a man thinks he owns you. A man buys you when you know your self-worth, and know when to say no. This is what men want in the women they love.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for SMART women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

What Men Really Want In A Relationship (But Don’t Know How To Ask For)
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