By James Hanrahan

How To Know When A Relationship Is REALLY Over

When you still have feelings for a guy it’s hard to tell when a relationship is really over.

It’s normal to have mixed feelings and for there to be a back-and-forth period.

However when a relationship is finally over you will have the feelings I’m about to describe to you.

But first let’s look at the feelings that show the relationship isn’t over.

1. You’re mad.

Unfortunately, when you’re mad you’re not done with the relationship. Anger means you still care and you still have hope that by fighting you can solve the problem.

This may or may not be true and fighting is not the end of a relationship. In fact, as I said, it’s a sign you’re not done yet.

2. You’re sad.

Feeling sad or hurt are strong emotions but, much like anger they still show you care and you have hope you can repair the relationship.

These feelings are valuable and it’s important to stay until the end of a relationship. Because if you don’t stay to the end of the relationship and get the lesson, you’ll repeat the lesson with someone else.

If you’re still mad or sad do everything you can to work things out or, until you reach the next two feelings that let you know when a relationship is over.

3. Apathy and Empathy.

Apathy and empathy are the signals to you that a relationship is over. Apathy means that you’re no longer mad or sad. You care about the person but you know longer have those charged feelings.

Empathy means you still care about the person, but you know longer feel drawn to try to work it out with them, because you’ve gotten the lesson.

How do you know when you’ve gotten the lesson? When you no longer want to repeat the lesson. You’re grateful for having had the person in your life, but you’re ready to move on, because you’ve changed.

If you’re still mad or sad, stay until you get the lesson, or you work things out. Apathy and empathy are the feelings you have when a relationship is over. They are the signs you’ve grown from the relationship and you’re ready to move on.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in A Life of Love.