The 3 Secrets Why Men Don’t Commit [According to A Guy]
If you’ve been with a guy for a while and you see no signs of commitment. There are three BIG reasons why a man doesn’t commit.
Fortunately for you, they’re all things you can do something about.
Because while he may have many excuses why he can’t commit right now, the solution boils down to these three secrets.
1. There’s no risk of losing you.
When you live with a guy, or spend all your time at his place, you’re basically a free wife.
The first reason he won’t commit to you is, there’s no risk of losing you.
The main reason a man takes on the responsibility of marrying you is, he doesn’t want to lose you.
It’s as simple as, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. [I’ll share with you how to change this in a minute.]
Which brings us to the second reason why he won’t commit.
2. He’s too comfortable.
When he’s already getting all the sex and companionship he wants from you, without taking on any responsibility. The next problem you have is, he’s too comfortable.
He may blame his job, or his financial situation, or any other number of excuses. However if a man really wants something he will move heaven and earth to get it.
However, if he’s already getting you for free, the real problem is he’s too comfortable.
3 Take things off the table.
The good news is, you have a solution. It’s time to take things off the table.
There’s only one way for a guy to find out he can’t live without you. There has to be the risk of losing you.
If you’re ready to take things off the table the first thing and the biggest thing to take off the table is sex.
To do this say, “I’ve really enjoyed our year plus of being together however I don’t feel comfortable continuing to have sex without an engagement ring and/or an agreement for a wedding date within the next six months to a year.” Pause. Followed by “what do you think?”
I know it’s a mouthful. However if there’s no risk of losing you and he’s too comfortable; if you don’t take things off the table, chances are nothing is going to change. [ to get coaching click here.]
You’re going to meet resistance, he may even pull away or decide to break up with you. Whatever it is, be patient, hold your ground, don’t argue with him and let him figure it out.
In the end this is not about him. It’s about your own self-worth and self-value. The reason why men don’t commit is because they don’t feel they have to. The reason they do commit is because you require it, and you’re worth it.
If he’s up for the challenge he’s your man, if not, he’s someone else’s boy.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men’s secrets to fall in love in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.